Why We’ve Got Dating All Wrong

March 4, 2012 § Leave a comment

For us single 20-somethings, the dating world can be kind of scary: meeting new people, putting yourself out there… For many, this is a bizarre concept to envision and they might find it easier to just stick with old dating habits. Though these habits may seem easier and more comfortable, they may not necessarily be the healthiest/best option.

When you meet someone new, and are dating or getting to know him/her, there’s a chance he/she might won’t text you back/won’t want to go on a second date/will turn out to be a complete jerk/(other crappy situation goes here). Any of these scenarios can be difficult to deal with because we often assume that we are being rejected. I think this is a poor way to look at the situation, because in reality it probably has nothing to do with you!

Think of your own dating life/experiences you’ve had. Chances are they have not all been positive. I’ve met too many scarred individuals who loved and lost, and then live by some sort of stigma where they hate love/dating/males/females. ¬†Why do our experiences need to have such lasting effects on our futures in dating? Why can’t we accept that just because one of our relationships did not work out, doesn’t mean that all of our relationships in the future will be just as painful?

You may be reading this and thinking to yourself that what I’m saying is more easily said than done, or that I am oversimplifying things. But all I’m really saying is this: There are over 7 billion people living on our planet. People are meant to be with people– we’re meant to experience things and events and try new things and just live our lives, with other people.

I’m not saying we MUST constantly have someone to be with. I’m saying that we should be more open to putting ourselves out there, which means accepting the risks and picking ourselves up quickly when things don’t go as we would have liked. If you remove all of the sugar coating off of this post, I’m basically just telling you to GET OVER IT and MOVE ON.

There are so many people who have loved and lost. So it didn’t work out with this person. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go meet new people until you find someone that you really click with. Because you won’t be this good-looking, spontaneous, and humorous forever. Go put it to good use.

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Currently Coveting: Spring Essentials

March 2, 2012 § 2 Comments

Happy Friday! You’re all thinking about weekend plans… I’m thinking about leather and purple shoes. Here’s a list of my top 5 wants/NEEDS as of right now.

1. Romantic Leather Skirt

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Acne, $1400, net-a-porter.com

The perfect combination of girly and chic. I love how pleated leather looks, especially this rich tan color. This would be a great skirt for a day-to-night transitional look, with a sleeveless white blouse and black pumps. Currently searching for a more moderately priced leather skirt, if you spot one give me a holla.

2. Purple Suede Peep-Toe Pumps

B_Brian_Atwood_PumpsB Brian Atwood, $350, saksfifthavenue.com

I don’t usually wear a lot of color but I absolutely love the rich, saturated hues that I’m seeing from S/S ’12 collections. These are so cool, if they go on sale I’ll have to figure out a way to make them work.

3. Best sneakers ever

Maison_Martin_Margiela_SneaksMaison Martin Margiela, $615, net-a-porter.com

Yeah I know these are probably the complete opposite of those purple pumps, but I LOVE them. I was a big dunks fan back in the day and these take high-tops to a whole different level. Want them on my feet now.

4. Monogram Necklace

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Bauble Bar, $56, baublebar.com

This necklace is perfect for my sudden obsession with color. Can’t decide which color I love the most but I will definitely be ordering one of these soon.

5. Sleeveless Python-Print Blouse

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Equipment, $208, farfetch.com

I love button-down blouses…They’re definitely one of my go-to items for a look that can be worn both in the office or when going out at night. Equipment ones are especially gorgeous and very well-made. I love this sleeveless one and the python print would go nicely with leather pants or a pair of jeans. It would also look cute with a white sweater layered over it so the collar peeps out on the top, especially on one of these chilly days.

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